This week I was guided to work with Doreen Virtue's newest angel oracle deck, "
The Romance Angels." As you might imagine, this deck deals with romance and relationships as its primary theme, though there are many other life lessons given through these cards as well.
As we begin the week, we are given the message, "Heart-to-Heart Conversations," which tells us that there is a need for honesty in all of our relationships - especially the relationship we have with ourself. If we are feeling run down, afriaid, stressed or uncomfortable with some life situation, it is important to talk to those closest to us so that they are allowed to support us. More importantly, it is important to admit these feelings to ourselves so that we may take action steps to remedy this situation. The angels tell me that holding your emotions in will only lead to more difficulty in the future. It is better to get things out and deal with them head on than to hide and bury your feelings.
The middle of the weeks brings the "Codependency" card, which warns that there is some form of difficulty relating to addiction going on in our lives right now. This could be the obvious issues of alcohol and recreational drugs, but it could also relate to an unhealthy need to use food to cope with your emotions, impulsive spending habits or gambling, workaholic tendencies, an unhealthy need to be in a relationship at all times or to never be alone, or emotional impulse control issues such as allowing yourself to be a "rageaholic" and giving in to destructive, explosive temper. In reality, any unhealthy attachment to any substance or behavior can manifest as an addiction and cause difficulty in a person's life. As this message comes from the Romance Angels, this could also refer to issues arising from growing up in an addictive household or to a current friendship, business relationship or romantic partnership. Whatever your specific situation, the message is that now is the time to seek help in dealing with these addictive tendencies through making conscious choices to change your behavior (if you are the addict), seeking out profesional counseling or through separating yourself from an unhealthy, addictive relationship.
As we enter the weekend, we are given a rest from the difficult work we have done throughout the week and are given the message that "This Could Be the One!" This card refers to one having potentially found their perfect soulmate relationship, but this card could also refer to finding the perfect job situation, the perfect school, the prefect advisor, the perfect professional to meet some need or even finding someone who would be a true and faithful friend to you. The Angels caution you to keep your eyes open and be open to all opportunities around you. They say that very often we have a picture in our minds of the ideal person - regardless of whom we are looking for - and will therefore pass up on the perfect person because they do not fit our expectations or preconceived ideal. They tell me very clearly, "Be open and explore!"
~ Lady Wolfdreams
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Monday, February 20th and Tuesday February 21st: Heart to Heart Conversations
"Honestly discuss your feelings with each other."
Your love life needs a healthy infusion of honest communication, according to the Romance Angels. You've been harboring emotions that are masking your feelings of love. There's still time to heal the situation; however, it will require effort on your part. You may need to initiate an uncomfortable discussion and risk upsetting your partner. In the end, though, this is a necessary move to ensure the health of your relationship.
If necessarey, schedule an appointment with a counselor to facilitate the discussion. This professional can steer the conversation away from blame and toward resolution. You can also gain support from free groups such as Emotions Anonymous, Co-Dependents Anonymous or Al-Anon (meetings are held internationally and online).
Whether you communicate with your partner alone or with a neutral third party, your heart-to-heart discussions will result in personal growth. Remember that you can't control another persons reactions. You can only be honest about how YOU feel and know what YOU will and won't accept in a relationship. By sharing your feelings, you stand a much better chance of teaching your partner about your needs instead of suffering silently.
Wednesday, February 22nd and Thursday, February 23rd: Codependency
"Addictions are affecting your romantic life."
This card answers your question in perhaps a surprising way because addictions are the culprit behind the issues you're attempting to resolve. This could be your own craving for a substance or unhealthful behavior, or it could be that your partner's addictions are impacting your love life. The card is also an indicator of childhood experiences in an addictive family.
Addictions numb the heart to pain, but the also diminish its capacity to love. Since love is the basis of your romantic partnership, addiction becomes a barrier to moving forward to true emotional intimacy. This is especially true if you are twisting yourself in knots to please a person whose dependency has lessened his or her capacity for happiness. That no-win situation will negatively affect your self-esteem and your own happiness if you continue.
Fortunately, lots of support is available worldwide in the form of 12-step meetings and other addiction-support fellowship models. Whether it is you or your romantic partner who has the addiction, you can find free groups near you through Internet searches or by contacting a local community health center.
Friday, February 24th to Sunday, February 26th: This Could Be The One
"You've already met the romantic partner you seek."
This card signals that you've already met the person you romantically seek. Perhaps you're already in a relationship with him or her! The Romance Angels sent you this card because it seems you're not recognizing or enjoying the full potential of this person and relationship.
Sometimes you may overlook someone who's meant for you because you have a different idea of what your partner should look or act like. Take a moment to consider who this might be. The first person to come to mind is probably the one.
Next, invite the Romance Angels into your dreams as you're going to bed. Ask them to give you very clear information about your romantic partner (either in your present relationship or a future one). During sleep, you're more open to angelic guidance. When you awaken, you may not remember your dreams, but you wil have a clearer sense of romance and partnership. Take any action you feel called to based on your inner guidance, even if it seems unrelated to your love life. Trust that the angels are leading you toward the one you desire.
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